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Tips For Parents

Prom Mom and SonTips for Parents:

Parents – remember Prom? It’s probably changed a bit since you were in high school, and not just when it comes to music.  Your teen is counting on you to guide them through this new experience so that they can experience a night of good memories without regret.  Because this is a new experience, it can be helpful to clarify family rules and beliefs as the plans are being made.  This prevents surprises and allows teens to focus on having a good time.  Family Honor has created some tips for discussions to have, plans to make and things to keep in mind as your child begins “prom season”.

1. Be clear about expectations for modesty.  The long, elegant dresses have been replaced by short and  low-cut styles.  Talk to your daughter about what is and isn’t appropriate before dresses are even tried on.  This avoids the heartbreak of falling in love with a dress that isn’t appropriate attire.

2. Have a budget.  Prom is a great opportunity for teens to practice their budgeting and learn to prioritize wants based on what they can afford.  Talk to your teen about what they’re budgeting for and what they’re learning as they go.

3. Know who’s going.  Offer to host a pre-prom gathering – especially if you don’t know everyone—and take the opportunity to get to know your child’s friends.

4. Trust your instincts.  If something strikes you as odd, unusual or makes you uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to ask your child about it or even not allow it.  You’re the adult.  You don’t need to give reasons.

5. Help your teen devise an “exit plan”—a way to help the get out of any situation that is making them uncomfortable.  Emphasize that no matter what trouble your child may feel like they’re in, you’re there to help.

6.  Go through extraordinary—even annoying—lengths to ensure that there will be an adult present at every event your child plans to attend before, during and after.

7. Speaking of after parties—offer to host one! Teens are typically just looking for a place to continue to hang out.  Collaborate with another household to provide separate lodging for boys and girls after they’re done socializing.  Ask the youth director at your parish if you can assist them in planning a post-prom after party.

8. Pray!   As much as you may wish, you can’t live this evening for your teens but you can pray for them. Pray that they can have wisdom, courage and fortitude!

Research has shown that the average teen absorbs between 7-10 hours of media every day. The images, messages and lessons that we take in everyday can affect the way that we think, speak and act. Chastity means being pure in our thoughts, words, and deeds. Just like a good diet helps our body to be healthy, taking in good media helps our soul to be healthy.

But how do we do that?

Remember that YOU are the one with the final say in what your child watches and listen to in your home. The many ways youth receive media can be overwhelming. Here are some suggestions for helping your child make good media choices:

Resources for Parents:

Center for Parent/Youth Understanding ( is a non-profit organization that seeks to help parents better understand the culture of teenagers. They publish an excellent “Youth Culture Update” that is delivered weekly by e-mail and includes a snapshot of youth culture (what’s #1 in music, movies and television) as well as pertinent articles. Subscribe by entering your e-mail here:

United States Conference of Catholic Bishops: ( The United States Bishops publish reviews of most movies as they are released in limited or general circulation. They have their own criteria for rating movies that take into consideration the messages the movies are conveying, not just how many times a certain word is said (listed here: The USCCB’s movie reviews are archived here: Also on the site are their Top 10 movies of the last several years, some of which may be surprising. Worth a look!

Plugged In: ( is Focus on the Family’s media-review site. It contains helpful reviews of the latest in movies, music, television and other notes on culture and media that parents would find helpful.